Life, what a ride! And often times a wild one at that, eh?
I don’t know about you, but life is a roller-coaster full of so many unknowns that many times we don’t see coming. If you would, let’s each stop and think about a time that something happened in our life that we didn’t foresee was going to happen.
Ten to one a number of things come to mind, right? Pick just one unforeseen happening and think about it for a bit. How did you initially react when it happened? What did you say/think/feel? What impact did it have not just in the moment, but in the minutes/hours/days/weeks/months/years to come. Does it effect you to this day? Have you been able to work through the thoughts/feelings of what happened, to begin to process all that happened from the time of the initial happening?
Today I’d like to share with you about what I’ve learned about “trusting the process”. Meaning, not just when something happens that we aren’t expecting, but also about “going out on a limb” to take a leap of faith to even begin to start trusting the process… rather than ignoring a past disruption of life, or living in fear of it.
Let’s start with trusting the process when we aren’t expecting something to happen. It’s easy to go through life in a routine and to get stuck in a routine we are used to and expecting. Then, when something throws the routine off we can easily become anxious, stressed, confused, feeling unorganized, fearful, having a lack energy, or, maybe start to panic and even hyperventilate. These reactions are all very common in society today. I’m not going to talk more about our initial reactions because what I really want to talk about for all of us to better understand is what we do with not just this initial reaction, but the aftermath. What happened has already happened, and now it’s time to find light, love, and learning lessons through what has happened. It’s easy to become caught up in emotions and memories, which ARE good, but we can’t stay stuck in them. We have to trust the process of life healing us, to keep moving forward in a respectful manner to allow us to learn, love, and come out the other side of what’s happened, towards becoming a better, more understanding and empowered person. Does that make sense?
Let’s take myself, for example. If you don’t already know, I was sick for a total of 7 years. I had a wild, difficult, painful, rewarding, and inspiring journey from illness to wellness, that I personally made a decision from the beginning to “trust the process”. I had no idea what I was really getting into, let alone having ANY idea of all the things I’d have to do, and the time and energy it took for me to come out the other side, in my honest and humbled opinion to be a better and more healthier, whole individual. If I would have known what the process would have all entailed… would I have trusted the process? I can’t answer that question, because I don’t know. But I do know that so many times in life, we’re thrown curve-balls that we don’t see coming. What we choose to do with these curve-balls can truly be life-breathing and self-rewarding. Or, they can be dark shadows of undealt with pain, disharmony, and dreary memories which can lead to depression and ill health in multiple ways. It’s our choice to make on how life’s happenings will affect us, but trusting the process and making choices that are true to ourselves, and our individual integrity, is important to move forward in a positive, empowering way.
Are we staying true to ourselves, in what we believe in, as we trust the process of what comes AFTER the initial happening/event? Trusting the process is part of the process but we have to do our part in trusting the process in a respectful manner. Which brings me to the second point…
“Going out on a limb” to take a leap of faith, to begin to start trusting the process rather than living in doubt, distrust, or fear. For most of us, this is the hardest obstacle to overcome. How do we begin to take a leap of faith to start trusting the process of healing/overcoming something that has happened? For instance, let’s think about “rejection”. Someone has rejected you and you’re caught up in the feelings of being rejected It may seem easier to isolate yourself, thinking you may be proactive innot getting hurt again, rather than being amongst others. But, being out amongst others IS important, let alone talk to anyone about why/how rejection impacted you.
Maybe your going out on a limb is that it’s time to make a change in your life, a new season is taking root, but there is a huge amount of fear that comes with this new change. Should I tell my boss I’m going to switch jobs? Do I really want to hear what they are going to say to me when I tell them? What if I’m not happy with my new job? All these “what if’s” and fears that can detour us from trusting the process of what is meant to be and IS going to happen.
I’m a firm believer in, “Everything happens for a reason”. Maybe you are too. Or, maybe you aren’t. If you aren’t, well I hope that you can be open minded in what I share. That’s how we learn from everyone we don’t agree or think like minded with, right? If everything happens for a reason, why is there so much pain and sorrow in this world as we know it? Why all the fighting, segregation, rankings, sufferings, disease, and pain inflicted into everyone’s life to some degree? I don’t know about you, but I used to ask myself that question. If Papa God made this world perfectly, WHY is it so imperfect? I’ve found out to for myself, it’s because Papa wants us to trust in Him and follow His guidance. He wants us to build our character. He wants us to dig deep and begin to start to heal from the inside out, to not only allow ourselves to be better and more loving humans, but to be able to do that with others as well, be more loving to one another. Love isn’t meant to be a reservoir to hang on to for ourselves. Love is meant to be a river, always flowing and giving to others. If we want more love, peace, healing, light, and joy in this world, then WE have to be the ones to allow it IN and let it flow OUT of us as well.
Again, I ask you to pause and reflect on the event/happening that took you off guard, throwing you into a ditch of sorts. Was there something that you choose to do or not do that stemmed from that happening? Were you trying to welcome an opportunity to learn more, love or dig deeper and trust the process, or trust in Papa God more?
I’m going to share a time that was trying to trust the process. While sick with Pancreatic Cancer, in order to detox the cancer I was doing coffee enemas for a long period of time. Doing these daily, and sometimes up to 3 times a day, was essential for me to keep up with the ongoing die-off inside of me (toxic elimination) to detox the cancer out. I trusted my Papa God and knew He was making a way for me to live, and was allowing healing to happen with each enema I gave myself. This all being said, I still wondered, “When will I be able to go #2 on my own, without the help of an enema?” I can’t really explain it to you, but I knew in my heart of hearts (due to a dream I’d had, that one day a shift would happen and the cancer would be gone, and) I’d be able to go on my own. Despite believing and knowing this to be true for myself, I had so many days of having a hard time trusting the detoxification process to get through a day. After nearly 1.5 years of being unable to go #2 on my own, one day I woke up and felt the shift actually happening! When I say, “I knew it was happening” I got giddy with excitement! But it took about a week before that morning actually came when I walked into the bathroom and wham, it happened, I went #2 on my own without any enema assistance.
Friends, this was a very personal story, so thanks for bearing with me! I share this because 1.5 years is a LONG time to 1) be constipated, and, 2) be doing daily enemas to get the toxins out of my body. I had battles with trusting the process, yet in my heart of hearts I knew that I needed to trust the process. There isn’t a day which goes by that I’m not thankful that I choose to not just trust the process, but ultimately trust my Papa God. He led the way, with the help of my Functional Medicine Doctor (and others helped too).
You want to know what sticks out to me the most about this story to this day when I think about what I learned from this? The truth comes out yet again- there isn’t a day that goes by that I’m not thankful to be able to go to the bathroom on my own! How’s that for sharing the truth!? LOL
Now, my friend, I ask you… Are you trusting the process for whatever curve-ball life is throwing your way? Are you trusting Papa God? Are you taking the leap of faith that you feel/know you need to in order to do what is needed for this season in your life? Are you really ready to start trusting the process and going about the work needed to be done at this time?
If you are, I can tell you, “The journey you are about to embark on is absolutely terrific! It teaches us so much, and we should never stop learning as long as we’re breathing! We get to dance our life song like nobody’s watching. We can get down and dirty, in the dump, but at the end of the day we can come out cleaner and more healthy and whole. “Trust” can be a scary thing, but the rewards of trusting in the process are far greater than any of us can ever imagine! Trust me. I know it to be true. It’s in the moments of trusting the process and trusting my Papa God that I’ve grown the most in my life. My life is one wild, crazy, and beautiful adventure that I wouldn’t trade for anything.
What about you? Do you want your life to be different than it is? Do you want to start trusting the process, or trusting Papa more on your behalf? It’s never to too late to start trusting. And there’s no better time than now. If you’re ready, seize the moment and start by taking the leap of faith in whatever it is that you’re ready to change. You are ready because you were born for this. Whatever is happening is not by chance. It’s time for you to grow so that we all can watch you fly in your life adventures! Amen and SO BE IT!